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I started this list of couple questions during the magic time when our daughter was content to hike with us in a backpack carrier (…as long as there was a steady stream of goldfish crackers).

We’d spend hours exploring the trails around our new city, but I have to admit, after a few months of quarantine together and most of my energy going into dragging my booty up a mountain …sometimes the conversation ran a bit dry 😂

This list of questions keeps us chatting, laughing, and learning about each other for hours.

We take turns answering each question and try to ask follow-up questions wherever possible.

There’s a good mixture of fun, deep, saucy, and relationship questions to keep the conversation flowing with your partner.

295 Fun & Deep questions to ask your partner

75 Deep questions ❣️
104 Fun questions 🤩
16 Questions: How well do you know each other? 🔍
33 Intimate questions 🔥
60 Relationship questions ❤️
12 Questions about the future 🔮

73 Deep Questions

Which three people are you grateful for right now?
What can’t you live without?
What’s your biggest insecurity?
Who’s your best friend?
What’s the best advice you’ve ever been given?
What’s your greatest fear?
What have you been procrastinating on recently?
What makes you a good friend?
If you could change one thing about your life today, what would it be?
What’s one of your favorite childhood memories?
Who was the worst teacher you’ve ever had?
What’s standing in the way of your happiness?
What makes you feel empowered?
How did your family resolve conflicts growing up?
What three things are you grateful for today?
What’s draining your energy at the moment?
What important lesson did you learn recently?
Do you care what strangers think of you?
What are the best things about being a parent? (if relevant)
What part of yourself are you working on at the moment?
When did you last cry?
How has your place in the birth order impacted you?
What’s one of your saddest childhood memories?
What impression do you give someone when you first meet them?
Do you believe in heaven and hell?
What do you think you need to focus on more?
What do you want your final words to be?
What gave you the most joy when you were young?
What are you really good at?
Do you have a least favorite relative?
Who inspires you?
What’s your least favorite emotion?
What brings you joy?
Do you like yourself?
What do you want to make more time for?
What’s the worst job you’ve ever had?
What is an unforgivable action?
When are you most comfortable?
What was your high & low of today?
If you had to change your career, what would you do?
What do you need to give up, say no to, or let go of?
What’s your biggest regret?
When were you last jealous?
What’s the meaning of life?
How are you similar/different to your mum (or mother figure)?
Are you living a meaningful life?
What do you need to forgive yourself for?
Do you care what people you know think of you?
How have you changed in the last five years?
How do you want to be remembered?
What are some of your current stresses?
What do you want your funeral to be like?
What does a successful life look like to you?
What do you want to do differently than your parents?
How are you similar/different to your dad (or father figure)?
What’s one of your worst work moments?
Would you rather have more time or more money?
What do you think happens after you die?
What are your thoughts on therapy?
What was your bravest moment?
Are you closer to your mum or dad (if relevant)?
What is the worst thing about being a parent (if relevant)?
What’s the worst pain you’ve ever been in?
What’s a compliment you can give yourself right now?
What do you want to learn more about?
What’s your favorite song lyric?
What’s your favorite emotion?
Describe yourself in three words.
Do you love yourself?
What makes you angry?
If you could know the date and circumstances of your death, would you find out?
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What would younger you think of your life now?
What’s your proudest moment?
What do you think of feminism?
Have you ever done any volunteer work?

103 Fun questions

What movie can you watch over and over again?
What’s your favorite snack?
What’s your best holiday?
What’s your favorite book?
What was your favorite show as a kid?
What do you dream of owning?
Who was your first celebrity crush?
What was your bedroom like as a child?
Would you rather speak every language or speak to animals?
What’s your least favorite chore?
How would you spend $50,000 (fifty thousand dollars)?
Tell me about one of your best work moments
What’s the scariest movie you’ve ever seen?
What’s your favorite breakfast?
What’s your earliest memory?
Tell me what you know about your birth story
How do you feel about pranks?
What was your first nickname?
What’s your favorite fish?
What’s your favorite type of tree?
What was your favorite childhood outfit?
Would you rather skydive or bungee jump?
What was your favorite subject in school?
Which celebrity do you find annoying?
What’s your favorite video game?
What’s your favorite sandwich?
How many hours of sleep do you need?
What’s your favorite color?

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What’s your favorite dessert?
What posters did you have on your wall as a teenager?
Describe your dream vacation
What are some of your favorite traditions?
What is your favorite personality trait of yours?
Would you rather go out for dinner or a concert alone?
What’s your favorite place abroad?
What language would you like to learn?
What’s your favorite spot at home?
How would you spend $500,000 (five hundred thousand dollars)?
What’s your favorite candy?
Do you think your star sign is accurate?
What’s your favorite outfit on you?
How do you like to relax?
What’s your favorite flower?
What’s the last song you heard?
What’s your dream job?
How would you spend $1,000,000 (one million dollars)?
What’s your favorite movie?
Who’s the most annoying person you know?
What’s your favorite drink?
How would you spend $5,000 (five thousand dollars)?

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What would you like to buy next for your home?
Who is your favorite band?
Do you believe in ghosts?
What’s your favorite bird?
What’s your favorite channel?
What are your hobbies?
What show could you watch over and over again?
What’s a funny story that makes you laugh every time?
What does self-care look like to you?
Do you wish life had a rewind or a pause button?
What’s the best burger you’ve ever had?
What’s your least favorite animal?
What’s the best pizza you’ve ever had?
What’s the worst haircut you’ve ever had?
Would you rather have a private island or a private jet?
If you would dress me in a new outfit, what would I be wearing?
What are some of your favorite songs?
What was your best birthday?
What’s your most regrettable purchase?
Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
What’s your dream car?
What hobby would you like to try?
What is your favorite smell?
What are some of your favorite movies?
What was your best Christmas?
What’s the best concert you’ve ever been to?
Do you enjoy alone time?
What’s your dream house?
What’s your favorite type of weather?
Are you an optimist, pessimist, or realist?
What’s your favorite cereal?
Do you prefer a side of salad or soup?
What was the first album you bought?
What’s your favorite chocolate?
Do you prefer the beach, forest, city, or farm?
What’s your favorite board game?
What’s one of your guilty pleasures?
What’s your favorite place locally?
Would you prefer a brand-new house or a new car?
Describe the contents of your ideal picnic basket
Who is your favorite relative?
Assuming everyone is safe, what three possessions would you save in a fire?
Where’s your favorite place to walk?
What (semi-realistic) car would you love to buy next?
What’s your least favorite type of weather?
When did you last belly laugh?
What is your favorite cartoon?
What would you name a boat?
What did you want to be when you were little?
What would you write a book about?
How would you spend $10,000,000 (10 million dollars)?
What’s on your bucket list?
What was your favorite book as a child?
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What’s your favorite joke?
What’s your party trick?

16 Questions: How well do you know each other?

Describe my perfect day.
What animal would you be, and what animal would I be?
What would make me happy right now?
What is my favorite feature of yours?
What would I do if money and other people’s opinions weren’t holding me back?
Who’s tidier, you or me?
True or false: My partner appreciates the things I do in this relationship
What were my first impressions of you?
Describe me in three words.
What qualities do I admire in others?
What belongings of yours do you think I’d get rid of if I had the opportunity?
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What’s my perfect date?
What’s the best outfit you’ve seen in me recently?
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Who’s funnier, you or me?
Which celebrity would I want as a bestie?
Describe my ideal morning.

32 Intimate questions 🔥

Have you had any sex dreams recently?
What’s your favorite sex scene from a movie?
What was one of our best kisses?
Do you have any fetishes?
Is there any particular type of clothing that you find sexy?
How many times would you like to have sex in an ideal week?
When did you last check out my butt?
Where is your favorite place to have sex?
What's a turn-off for you?
Does spanking turn you on?
Is there anywhere you’d like to be kissed more often?
What’s something that turns you on that you haven’t shared before?
How do you feel about being dominated in the bedroom?
What’s your favorite sex position?
Do you like sexting?
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What’s your favorite way to masturbate?
When do you feel the most passionate?
How do you feel about quickies?
If you were going to watch some porn right now, what search term would you type in?
How do you feel about role play?
Do we have a six-second kiss every day?
Do you like erotic fiction?
Is there anything sexual that you would like us to try?
Do you like dirty talk?
What turns me on?
Do you remember your first orgasm?
Describe one of your favorite sexual experiences we’ve had together
What’s an instant turn-on for you?
Do you like rough or romantic sex?
Is there anywhere new you’d like us to have sex?
What’s your favorite way for me to touch you?
What’s your favorite thing that I wear to bed?
Are there any new sex toys you’d like us to try?

59 Relationship questions

What are some of your happiest memories of our relationship?
How is our relationship similar to your parent’s relationship?
How is our relationship different from your parent’s relationship?
True or false: My partner generally likes my personality?
What was your worst relationship?
True or false: My partner respects me
What do you think the point of a relationship is?
What are some of the biggest lessons you’ve learned from previous relationships?
How do you describe me to other people?
What boundaries are important to you?
What relationships do you admire?
What are our priorities?
Describe our first date.
How can I help take on some of your burdens in life?
Finish this statement: I’m going to make more of an effort to…
What progress have we made towards our goals?
Who “wears the trousers” in our relationship?
What would you do if you thought I was making a bad decision?
Is there anything you’d like me to do differently during arguments?
How do you deal with conflict, and how do I deal with conflict?
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True or false: My partner really enjoys my achievements and accomplishments.
What’s your favorite feature of mine?
Describe our wedding day (if relevant)
True or false: I can easily list three things I admire about my partner
Can you think of anything that would make our life more fun?
How do I make you feel loved?
True or false: My partner enjoys my achievements and accomplishments.
What’s a nice thing I have done recently?
Is there anything that I used to do that you miss?
How do I make you feel respected?
How many children would you want if money was no object?
True or false: I feel accepted and liked by my partner
Name three things we have in common and three differences
What’s your favorite thing that we’ve bought together?
What’s our family motto?
When did you know you were in love with me?
What are the greatest strengths of our relationship?
Complete this statement: Thank you for…
What’s your favorite sort of text to receive from me?
Complete this statement: You show that you put me first when you…
What am I doing now that you like?
What song makes you think of me?
What do we argue about the most?
Are you satisfied with how we share responsibilities?
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What do you wish I did differently during arguments?
What’s your favorite outfit on me?
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What’s my best quality?
What’s something that you used to believe about relationships but no longer do?
What are your favorite memories of us dating?
What were your first impressions of me?
How do you want me to express my affection to you?
True or false: We rarely go to sleep without showing love and affection
What do you need from me right now?
What can I declutter physically or emotionally?
How can I help you feel loved, honored, and respected?
True or false: Romance is still part of our relationship
True or false: I am really proud of my partner
What would you like to see me work on?
Complete this statement: I’m proud of you because…
What’s your love language?
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12 Questions about the future

What’s one of your short-term goals?
(Check out these 80 personal goal ideas if you need inspo)
What’s your biggest dream for the future?
Where do you want to live?
Where do you see yourself in 15 years?
Where do you want to travel next?
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What traditions would you like us to start?
What are our goals?
Where do you see yourself in five years?
What does your next week entail?
Where do you see yourself in ten years?
What does retirement look like to you?
Where do you see yourself in twenty years?

Conclusion

I hope these fun and deep questions to ask your partner keep you both entertained and connected!

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